Feeling at Peace with the situation
Meet Kelly Da Silva – Founder of the Dovecote Childless Support Organisation which enables and inspires people facing involuntary childlessness to reconnect with their daily lives and rediscover a passion and purpose.
Kate and I spoke with Kelly about her own fertility journey which lasted nearly 10 years and included 2 miscarriages, ovulation induction, 3 IUI and 4 IVF cycles.
During her NHS treatment, funding was taken away in her area and Kelly made the decision to start private treatment. At the end of her fertility journey Kelly felt as though she was identified by her infertility. She felt no joy or happiness and felt as though she was a failure.
Kelly was having EFT to help her emotional wellbeing and had immense emotional support from her clinic and felt passionate about helping and supporting others and trained in EFT and NLP. She found that there was lack of support for couples who find themselves involuntary childless and wanting to break down taboos she set up the Dovecote Community online.
She now runs a Facebook page and closed Facebook group for women and men who are looking for support and holds Walk and Talk Events nationwide for both the Dovecote and Care Fertility. Anyone struggling with infertility can attend these peer support events.
We also spoke about a Buddy System for couples who are at a similar stage of treatment and Skype Support Meetings that Kelly has created to help deal with the inevitability of pregnancy announcements and how people deal with that as well as general coping.
Kelly talked so honestly and openly about how she has now found resolution. She embraces life and feels incredibly grateful for all the things she has in her life. She and her partner make sure they take the time to nurture their relationship and share experiences with their nieces and nephews.
We asked Kelly her advice to her younger fertile self, which is “don’t let infertility define you, continue to do the things that bring you joy and finally remember to have fun and do the things that give you joy.”
Source: The Fertility Podcast